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You're the only one I can tell, inside the language of women's friendships, Deborah Tannen

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You're the only one I can tell, inside the language of women's friendships, Deborah Tannen

Language

eng

Bibliography note

Includes bibliographical references (pages [257]-263) and index

Index

index present

Literary Form

non fiction

Main title

You're the only one I can tell

Nature of contents

bibliography

Oclc number

982493778

Responsibility statement

Deborah Tannen

Sub title

inside the language of women's friendships

Summary

"Women's friendships are a lifeline in times of trouble and a support system for daily life. A friend can be like a sister, daughter, mother, mentor, therapist, or confessor--or she can be all of these at once. She's seen you at your worst and celebrates you at your best. Figuring out what it means to be friends is, in the end, no less than figuring out how we connect to other people. In this ... new book ... Deborah Tannen deconstructs the ways women friends talk and how those ways can bring friends closer or pull them apart. From casual chatting to intimate confiding, from talking about problems to telling what you had for dinner, Tannen uncovers the patterns of communication and miscommunication that affect friendships at different points in our lives. She shows how even the best of friends--with the best intentions--can say the wrong thing, and how words can repair the damage done by words.... Drawing on interviews with eighty women of diverse backgrounds, ranging in age from nine to ninety-seven, [this book] gets to the heart of women's friendships--how they work or fail, how they help or hurt, and how we can make them better."--Jacket flaps

Table Of Contents

Introduction -- Women friends talking -- That's not what I meant!: the invisible influence of conversational style -- "We're a lot alike, " "We're very different": the importance of being, or not being, the same -- The same, or better?: connection and competition -- FOBLO, FOGKO, and the safe embrace of women in groups -- Too close for comfort: cutoffs, poaching, drama! -- "Like" it or not: women, friendship, and social media -- My friend, my sister, my self: what it means to be close -- Epilogue

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You are the only one I can tellInside the language of women's friendships

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